每日灵修 | 5.26 社群是……关于如何处理冲突
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社群是……关于如何处理冲突
Community Is … About Managing Conflict
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马太福音 18:15-20
Matthew 18:15-20
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“倘若你的弟兄得罪你，你就去趁着只有他和你在一处的时候，指出他的错来……”
—太 18:15
"If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you…"
—Matthew 18:15
没有人在家时，Alan养的狗便会吠叫，他们当然不知情，因为他们不在场，当警员上门告诉他们有邻居投诉时，他们才发现这件事。在惊讶之余，Alan同时也感到有点难过。他深感难过，因为他养的狗令邻居生厌，但他也因为他的邻居没有直接与他讨论这件事、反而首先通知警方而苦恼。他便去见他的邻居，解释他为什么更希望对方直接联络他，又为他的狗的吠叫声致歉。他的邻居理解他的感受，他甚至为彼此有机会交谈表示了谢意。
马太福音18章这段经文所说的，一向是人们处理冲突的基本原则。你若与人有嫌隙，在牵涉其他人之前，就当先去与他洽谈。这看来似乎是初步的做法，但它也是在社群生活中处事的基本原则。公开投诉、闲言闲语、或在背后中伤人，只会带来不信任和破坏社群生活。但另一方面，以敬虔的智慧和爱心直接针对问题，是处理冲突的积极做法。
冲突是会发生的，能够及时直接处理它们，是社群生活中重要的一部分。你有需要与其讨论彼此冲突的人吗？处理好这个冲突有可能会令你的社群关系得以提升呢。
Alan’s dog had a habit of barking when the family was away. Of course, they didn’t know it because they weren’t there. They found out when the police showed up at their door saying that a neighbor had complained. Alan was shocked and a bit hurt. He was sorry that his dog was causing an annoyance in the neighborhood, but he was also upset that his neighbor hadn’t just talked to him directly instead of calling the police. He went to talk to his neighbor and explained why he would have appreciated the direct contact and that he was sorry for the noise his dog was making. And his neighbor understood, even appreciated the conversation.
Conflicts will arise. Managing them directly and in a timely way is an important part of community. Is there anyone with whom you need to discuss a conflict? Dealing with that has the potential to make your community even stronger.
祷告 · Prayer
父啊，求祢帮助我们明智地处理冲突，又藉此加强我们彼此的关系。阿们。
摘自《每日箴言》
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